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Writer's pictureShahrzad Jalali PsyD

Sexuality or Sensuality?

The sexual revolution in the 1960s brought about a great deal of change in social norms, particularly a dramatic change of values related to sex and sexuality. This liberal movement was rooted in the dogmatic political climate, which enticed the domesticated woman to crave profound change. As with any other liberation, once the gateways to freedom opened, it was no longer possible to tame the flood. Both women and men began to shift their attitude regarding sexuality and its expression. What was once considered taboo became the new norm of sexual practice and with every step of gained freedom the demystification of sexuality continued.


Today sexuality is considered an expression of freedom. We even use sex to gain or relinquish control. There is a long list of reasons for sexual conduct. Some use sex as a mode of distraction and dissociation. Others use sex to gain money and power. For some sex simply fulfils a need for companionship. Regardless of the reasons for seeking sexual partners, one wonders if to gain more freedom we have sacrificed mystery.


The mysterious nature of sexuality is rooted in discovery. The revelation of “the other” is a gratifying experience, which is mainly accomplished through the sensation function.

To be in tune with the senses, we must be completely alert and present both with our own sensations and the sensations of “the other.” Such an experience allows us to divert our attention from instant gratification to intense gratification. Sensual experiences allow sexual pleasure to graduate from a simple urge to a process of merge.

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